Technology Makes It Easy to Fall in Love

 In Love, Technology


A woman sitting on the floor with her laptopIf you’ve ever had this experience while chatting it up online, it can feel as real as the day is long. You sit there watching the blinking cursor…waiting…waiting…waiting patiently for the response. “Ah, he already knows me so well, and we’ve only been talking for ten minutes. This must be the one.†Have you seen this person? Why is it so easy to fall into this mode of thinking?

As humans, we naturally seek connection with others. On the internet, or through apps such as Whisper, WhatsApp, or Snapchat, we can create these connections with others in a protected environment. Take note that I used the word “create†not “developâ€. In relationships that we develop, we are working cooperatively together to become familiar with the other person, easily layering each experience to understand the person. The process of creating a relationship is one-sided. The user is creating an image in their mind of this person, based simply on words or pictures, with no vocal inflection or emotion. Just think about how many different ways by using various vocal tones how you could say, “Hello, how are you today?†Friendly, impersonal, excited, seductive, professional, and so many other methods have come to my mind. When we “create†that cyber relationship, we use our own needs, wants, and desires. That’s why it is so easy to become infatuation with someone online. You don’t really know who they are, because they are exactly what you want them to be. Of course, the relationship can progress, and it can go in a positive or negative direction depending on how you continue to communicate. However, in that first level of connection, it’s all about fantasy.

One of the many reasons why it’s so easy to connect to another person online is that it is a protected environment. You are completely in control, and you only share what you want to share. Therefore, it’s very easy to avoid direct answers, or avoid certain feelings. It is also easy to disappear if you don’t like the direction of the conversation. You are hidden, safe, and concealed in perfect avoidance. Don’t forget, that person on the other side of the screen is a person, too. Their intentions may or may not be transparent, so safety is always a necessity.

In established relationships, when technology is used in the right way it can strengthen the relationship. Those unexpected text messages or suggestive photo can light a spark in the oldest relationship. Technology can be used to fall in love, stay in love, and live in love when handled with care. Keep your mind and intentions in the right place for you and your love light will shine through all of your communication.

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