Surviving Singleness

 In Life, Love, Relationships


A man is laying in bed with his arms crossed.

Being single is often a scary experience for men and women. Maybe after years of being attached you find yourself without a mate, or maybe you have skipped from relationship to relationship never getting a chance to fall in love with yourself in between. Take a time out to overcome the bleakness by submersing yourself in this single opportunity. Author Mandy Hale had a great quote about singleness. “You don’t need a significant other to have a significant life.†Singleness is an opportunity to challenge yourself, and grow in new directions that are not influenced by others. This is an opportunity to explore and get to know yourself.

When was the last time you checked in on your self-esteem? Daily affirmation skits from Saturday Night Live reruns do not count, because “Doggone it, you are smart enough, good enough, and people do like you.†Maintaining a healthy self-esteem will lessen feelings of self-doubt and loneliness, as well as, increasing your feelings of self-worth. There are several simple techniques to help develop a healthy self-esteem. A gratitude journal is a great method to help you overcome negative feelings of self-doubt. The journal process is easy. Simply write down what you are thankful for, and express some genuine gratitude. Goal-setting is another great tool. However, when goal setting always use the SMART method for goals. This method will substantially increase your chances of achieving your goals. Keep the goal specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, and timely.

Invest in your friendships, and make them more meaningful than ever. Challenge yourself to develop your communication skills and conversational abilities with your friends, or even strangers. Learn to be a good listener, too. Your life will be greatly enhanced when you begin investing in your friendships.

Enjoy your freedom to do what you want. Volunteer, and take advantage of the opportunities to experience different things. Travel on your own terms, and explore until your heart is content. Is there something you’ve always wanted to do, but was held back by the apprehension of others? Now is the time to go for it.

Having a partner is a choice and being single is also a choice. Enjoy the absence of compromise, and do what you have always wanted without feeling guilty or selfish. There is no need to wallow in self-pity because you are alone. Change your perspective, and seize the opportunity to celebrate yourself in your moment of singleness.

Sometimes you have to stand alone to prove that you can still stand.

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